Dr
Peter Dingle explores the gratitude-greed continuum
- and finds doing good pays off handsomely in health
and happiness.
What is 'gratitude'? Perhaps we can
comprehend it more easily through a gratitude and greed
spectrum. We can visualise this quite easily - complete
and utter gratefulness is at one end - total self interest
and greed at the other. Gratitude is an attitude to
living, and can have an immeasurable effect on our experience
of every day, every hour of our day, and even every
minute of our day.
Buddhist monks who have learned to
derive their happiness from within, rather than from
material benefits, are a living example of gratitude.
Closer to home is the attitude of my friend Leo. Leo
was in a motorcycle accident and lost one of his legs.
His other leg was crippled and causes him ongoing discomfort.
Despite this, he is glad to be alive and glad to still
be able to get around, work and be active. Recently,
he went snow skiing with a group of severely physically
impaired men. His handicap was one of the least. The
nighttime conversation revolved around how lucky they
were to be able to go skiing. All these men focus on
what they still have.
Another true story about a resilient
amputee comes to mind here. Carl, whom I know through
my friend Evelyn, lost his leg below the knee. This
was back in the '70s and at the time Carl had a wooden
leg. He and Evelyn were going hiking when Carl noticed
the ankle joint of his prosthesis had come loose. He
was unable to fix it so he asked to be driven to a hardware
store. Here he requested a hammer and a handful of nails.
The proprietor brought them over and Carl promptly put
his leg up on a chair and started hammering nails through
his sock into the offending ankle. The proprietor fainted
clean away! Carl still dines out on that story.
Focus on what you have; on the fact
that you have a roof over your head, you can eat healthy
foods, you do have a job or even if you don't, that
you are capable of getting a job. Learn to appreciate
your friends, family and the environment around you.
Appreciate the little things you are able to do every
day, simply because you can do them. Rather than focusing
on a sore ankle or leg when you go for a walk, or the
fact that it's overcast or even raining, appreciate
that you can still go for a walk. Gratitude is the appreciation
of the simple things in life that we usually take for
granted.
We have the tendency to focus on deficiencies
in other people. Usually, it's our family or closest
friend who often goes out of their way to help us. Instead,
we zero in on the one small aspect that didn't work
well, blow it out of proportion and blame them for not
caring. Focus on what they do for you, not what they
don't do. We can learn to be grateful.
At the other end of the spectrum lies
dissatisfaction with what we do have and avarice for
more and more. We always want more things. Consumerism
encourages us to focus on what we don't have rather
than what we do have. As a result, we end up with a
mental handicap worse than any physical one. The prime
example of this is the totally materialistic person
who believes pleasure and happiness can only be derived
from money, status and possessions. The research shows
that such a belief is ill founded and that in many cases
the very opposite is true. A focus on material wealth
is associated with compulsive spending, envy, low self
esteem and lack of generosity. Individuals whose primary
focus is affluence and materialism are less satisfied
with their life as a whole, tend to experience a high
degree of anxiety and depression, have a lower sense
of wellbeing and greater behavioural and physical problems.
Some studies have shown that adolescents who value material
wealth highly have greater susceptibility to psychological
disorders.
The happiness we all seek can only
be achieved through self control, not material possessions.
Current research into the neurological markers of happiness
supports this view. Of all people studied, Buddhist
monks scored most highly in the 'happy markers' and
seem the happiest and most content. The left prefrontal
cortex shows greater stimulation in people with a positive,
happy outlook. And in these happy people, activity in
the amygdala is inhibited.
The opposite was shown for unhappy
people. They have increased activity of the amygdala
and greater stimulation of the right prefrontal cortex.
Furthermore, those with greater activity in the right
prefrontal cortex were more likely to experience emotions
of distress when shown a negative situation. Adults
with increased right side prefrontal cortex activity
were also more likely to report distressing emotions
after watching films, compared to people with left sided
activity. It may sound obvious and clichŽd, but
your perception of the world is coloured by what's inside
of you.
Money is only a tool to help achieve
certain ends. We are conditioned to value it for itself,
and we can easily create an economic prison for ourselves,
where we think we need more and more, and fear not having
enough. Despite our increased wealth, the divorce rate
has doubled, teen suicide has tripled, reported violence
almost quadrupled and depression rates have dramatically
increased, particularly among teens and young adults.
Yet our economic and political masters continue to tell
us to work harder and buy more to keep the economy going.
Material possessions come and go.
In January 2005, I read all about John Elliot, the ex-millionaire,
who has rubbed shoulders with the Queen and all the
highest dignitaries in the country, now broke and in
debt. The more you have, the more you have to worry
about. You work harder and harder, creating an unbalanced
life, leaving no time to enjoy the things you really
should enjoy and all of a sudden, you're at the end
of your life and you've missed it. I call this deferred
living. Wants beget wants. I want therefore I am or
will be.
Research has shown that material gain
can only be used for limited motivation. It soon wears
thin and has to be continually increased to maintain
results. If removed it may become a significant demotivator.
In one experiment they gave children a reward every
time they engaged in a preferred activity. The children's
interest in these activities quickly diminished when
they became associated with rewards. Similarly, adults
working on puzzles were rewarded each time they completed
them. However, their interest in the activity also diminished.
Modern culture places huge emphasis
on material success. But this is nothing new - history
is replete with stories of greed as well as those saying
get your priorities right first. Despite the abuse of
his name, Epicurus, a Greek philosopher living around
300BC, encouraged people to enjoy the simple things
in life, particularly friends and friendships. He also
taught the value of simple foods, from where we have
derived the word 'Epicurean'. Epicurus had a large following
- whole villages followed his philosophy of 'simplicity
is better'. The Epicureans believed that self indulgent
pleasures lead to pain in the long run. Science is now
supporting this belief. Socrates believed that happiness
was achieved through living a life that nurtures the
soul and not through external achievement, wealth or
status. Even more recently Einstein said, "I think
that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best
for everyone, best for both body and mind".
This is not to say you have to forgo
all material possessions, rather that you need a balance.
Most importantly, appreciate the things you already
have, particularly those that don't cost money, such
as clean air and water and access to beautiful beaches
and countryside. These simple things really bring the
most pleasure and happiness. Imagine not having them.
Then you can learn to appreciate them.
When you make a conscious effort to
move towards the gratitude end of the scale, you'll
notice that you feel better. When you really start to
experience gratitude you also begin realise the importance
of giving, without any need or expectation to receive
something in return. Many religious texts, including
the Bible, expound the necessity of giving freely and
unconditionally. Research shows that serotonin levels
(known as the 'feel good' chemical) increase and your
immune system is stimulated when you perform an act
of kindness or giving. You get the same effects if you
observe an act of kindness or giving. That is why people
who give get pleasure, or as the Bible says, "give
and ye shall receive". The opposite is also true,
greed and continually taking leads to increased dissatisfaction,
disharmony and poor health. Physiologically, it lowers
serotonin and a compromises your immune system.
Other research has also shown that
gratitude and kindness increase your wellbeing and life
expectancy. Altruism reduces our focus on ourselves
and appears to serve as a distraction from worries,
whereas preoccupation with ourselves leads to anxiety
and depression by increasing our concentration on our
problems. Researcher George Vaillants followed Harvard
graduates for 40 years, and found altruism to be one
the major qualities enabling graduates to cope with
the stress of life. It also helps us live longer. A
study of 2,700 American males who volunteered their
services to community organisations were found to have
much better longevity than those who didn't volunteer.
They were two and a half times less likely to die from
any cause as compared to the control group. Helping
others also seems to result in a boosted immune system,
fewer colds and headaches and better sleeping habits.
Valiants' research also shows that
our priorities change as we age and pass through various
growth cycles. Our focus becomes less about ourselves
and more and more about others, our community and the
environment. As we evolve, we're prepared to be more
generous. (Though there are some individuals who get
caught up in the "me" cycle and never grow
out of it). Our sense of happiness seems to go hand
in hand with this development, despite the fact that
we experience more health problems and more bereavements
as we age. We are more satisfied with what we have and
our need to acquire more and more is reduced.
Even the guru of motivational, money
making books, Napoleon Hill, changed his tune as he
aged and sorted out his priorities. His book, Think
and Grow Rich emphasised the power of positive thinking
to make more money. However, much later in his life,
he wrote Think and Grow Rich With Peace of Mind, emphasising
values which money cannot buy and freedom from the feeling
of want.
Your life is precious and the best
things in it don't cost anything. I know this from my
own recent experiences. My best friend recently passed
away. During her illness and her final days, all I wanted
was to spend more precious time with her. Money and
material possessions became totally irrelevant. I just
wanted to enjoy the simple things of life with her,
seeing her smile, a walk together, a talk.
Dr Peter Dingle is an Associate Professor of Health
and the Environment in the School of Environmental Science
at Murdoch University, Perth. |